It's Expensive Being Me
"Grief is depression in proportion to circumstance; depression is grief out of proportion to circumstance. It is tumbleweed distress that thrives on thin air, growing despite its detachment from the nourishing earth. It can be described only in metaphor and allegory...Grief is a humble angel who leaves you with strong, clear thoughts and a sense of your own depth. Depression is a demon who leaves you appalled." ~ Andrew Solomon, The Noonday Demon: An Atlas of Depression
I saw my psychiatrist yesterday, just to check in with how I'm doing. I came away with a new antidepressant. Good news, bad news. I knew that something had to be done. I've been having significant symptoms of depression since my surgery, though I don't cry as much as I did the first five weeks. I've been unable to concentrate, not interested in food, sad, tired. I've lost about ten pounds since before the surgery. I'm still in some pain and I think that I tend to cry when I'm in that part of the day (after 11:00 a.m.).
On the other hand, my goal is to decrease the amount of medication that I'm on. I will probably never be able to completely stop taking antidepressants. The years and years of repeated, intense trauma have left an indelible mark. There's a genetic tendency for depression in my dad's family. Well, there's a genetic predisposition for just plain crazy in my dad's family.
I'm okay with that. I'd just like to not have a handful of pills to take every day. That won't be happening for a while yet. I just have to work on taking care of myself, physically and emotionally. I have to continue to eat, whether or not I feel like it.
I haven't felt like eating in a very long time. My doctor asked me if there was some way to make food more palatable. The answer is no. I may be hungry and I may be having something I generally like, but once it's in front of me, I completely lose interest. I can't continue to lose weight.
All of these drugs take a toll on my budget, too. To quote another Texas girl, "It's expensive being me." In so many ways.
posted by: LadyG (reply)
post date: 02.27.07 (9:08 am)
ggirl, I am extremely sad to hear that you are going through this depression,that you are not eating and losing weight, matter of fact I am trying to hold back the tears. I feel very close to you and I want you to get to that happy time again. My prayers are that each day get better and that you
are free from all pain.
posted by: FinalyFree (reply)
post date: 02.27.07 (9:25 am)
I think it's sad that medicine for depression and the like is typically so expensive. Even with a co-pay some of it is outrageous. Certainly doesn't help with one's mood, huh?
I hope that you continue to heal physically and emotionally. I know this has been a tremendous struggle. I pray for better days ahead :)
posted by: rosietulips (reply)
post date: 02.27.07 (9:48 am)
Depression sure sucks. It runs in my dad's side of the family, too.
I am confident you will reach your goal. Hang in there!
posted by: mimi (reply)
post date: 02.27.07 (4:50 pm)
perhaps, down the road, you will be able to back off or eliminate the drugs. i recently weaned off my antidepressants after 10 years on them...i have the opposite happen...weight gain! not good, either way...but my doctor's also said i will probably need them the rest of my life...i guess with all that is going on with my daughter, i decided to get a better grip on my life, and i am happy i did...but i would not be here had i not had them to get me through this last 10-11 years! so, be kind to yourself, as i know that you are...and just focus on getting better....with love,
mimi
posted by: consciousphobic (reply)
post date: 02.28.07 (3:21 am)
Thinking of you ggirl....HUGS
